The Four Agreements

The Four Agreements

Have you ever had to initiate what you perceived to be an uncomfortable conversation? Or been faced with making a seemingly difficult decision? I’ve had numerous of both recently and was reminded by a yoga teacher of the advice given in don Miguel Ruiz’s book, “The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom.”

Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don’t Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Don’t Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

Reading these over and keeping them in the forefront of my mind has been a tremendous help to me. It really is a useful roadmap for navigating situations that can be tricky and thought I’d pass them along in hopes that they can help you as well.

Heather Delia
Owner, Aspire Yoga Center